Tuesday, June 21, 2011

Hurt people hurt people.

The power to forgive is an amazing gift. We're taught to forgive when we're young, often times the lesson is followed by the saying "we must forgive & forget..". The forgive part is not a problem but that damn forgetting part gets to me every time! I have forgiven those that have done me wrong, I've moved on with my life, and in most situations I've even found myself excelling despite the negative experience. There are those particular experiences though... those certain individuals that have taken me for a loop! Sure I've forgiven, but to forget? Not so much.  I know for sure I've come a long way... I understand my worth and because of that knowledge I've taught myself to break away from those pained individuals and in doing so I've allowed the natural order to take place.  Listening more attentively to what is flowing in, through, and around my life by taking Gods cue's as they come has taught me to break away, but I have a really hard time staying away. I want to heal them due to my natural disposition which is grounded in love which is also the reason why it's so hard to leave a person that I know is in hurting.   I remember hearing on Oprah the phrase "Hurt people hurt people" which is exactly where I am now... how do I love this person that's so clearly hurting without risking being hurt in the process?  I am so pissed at this individual but at the same time I sit and wonder "why did you feel the need to be so mean... who fucked you over so bad that you would say such evil things to me?".  The relationship is for now destroyed but I must admit I hope this person apologizes, I really would love to love them if only they allowed me to do so. No matter what... I love myself more and for that reason and that reason alone... I forgive... it's too soon to forget... but I will walk away from the pain and pray for their healing from a distance.  Love & Blessings - Buttaflibabee


  1. This is a beautiful post. I'm trapped in a bit of a similar situation right now, dealing with forgetting and forgiving. Good luck with your situation!

  2. Thank you Nicole! I hope this post helped you in your situation. Love & Blessings. - Buttaflibabee

  3. Your path did not intersect mine by cosmic chance, but rather thru spiritually profound purpose. I see me in you.. in your words.. and although I am unable to see the transitions of your tear-streaked face.. sagging shoulders.. downturned mouth.. and the pain, hurt, and confusion within your eyes.. and now this transformation you speak of, as the realization of who you are in God and in YOU has now set in.. to see the change in your face, one filled with pride, while continuing to glow with your innate ability to truly love.. the slightly upturned corners of your mouth, set in a smile representative of self love.. your shoulders strong and fully erect.. and on top of it all the warmth and sincerity that emanates from deep within the recesses of your eyes as you see you ahead and not behind. No, I may not know you well, a little over the phone, as you encouraged me to hold on just a little bit longer.. You are so much like me.. and you know what.. that is a blessing.. for the both of us.

    Keep on being, doing, and loving you!
    God's blessings to you and your family.

    P.S. I told you I was going to put that message on your blog.. I just wasn't sure what it was going to be about.. I just wanted to thank you publicly.. and I just got my chance. Amen..God IS good.