Sunday, May 23, 2010
In yo' face friendship.
Oh how I love my friends... let me count the ways. I love them because they're not just my friends, they're my family. Back when I was younger I used to try so hard to fit in, being that I was a heavy child that's what I longed for... to belong, to be accounted for and now by golly (shuddup I know that's corny) I definitely got it! My friends consist of not just me but my brother and his wife, my sister -n - law's sister, her best friend from high school, her brother (best friend of my sis n law's sister), his wife, and his best friend (who is also married to my sis n laws sister), and everybodies homegirl, everybodies homeboy, and myself. We are an extremely close knit bunch and we're also aware that the type of friendship we have is special, we could seriously be a reality show if we were so lucky. We reflect similar qualities within each other such as: intellect but also the quest to learn more... spirituality... entrepreneurship... cultural diversity. As a group, we believe in looking and feeling good so we try our best to take care of ourselves, as the saying goes "if you look good you'll feel good". My friends and I really enjoy the heck out of each others company but contrary to normal practices we don't have to speak to each other everyday and sometimes we go months without seeing each other, but when we all get together... it's the real deal... it's the truth. This type of friendship is like a black diamond, extremely rare, precious, and holds value beyond belief. The reason why we love each other so is because we know the level of our friendship requires us to elevate every relationship, it sets a certain standard for anyone wanting to love us, that person must definitely come correct. When I was single I tried so hard to "find" a boyfriend... as if he could be found, I wanted to have a guy to bring to dinner when I got together with all my friends so that I could have someone to cuddle with, someone to dance with... a companion. Yesterday was the first time I realized this is quite a tall order, ultimately no matter how strong of a guy he is he will have to be confident enough to blend with relationships that have already blended so well. See my friends and I have been together for 10+ years we participate in each others lives tremendously and we've merged together so well because we ARE family. We stand up in each others weddings, we are God-parents to each others kids, and we are the shoulder to lean/cry/laugh on. The reality that hit me yesterday also gave me something to be thankful for, my friendships are for right now my main relationship and for that I must embrace it. I've been on a journey of discovery and healing and yesterday what I've failed to realize is that God has answered my prayers from back when I was in elementary school... what I wanted has been right in front of my face all along. When I was a little girl I just wanted to belong... I wanted to have a best friends... I wanted to have a "cool group" to belong to... now I have it, but more importantly I choose to embrace it...I love it... I love them! Love & Blessings. - Buttaflibabee